What is normal?

An expert is someone that can explain to you what “normal” is.

Something that is scary or outrageous to a novice, is usually old-hat to an expert.

For example:

A grandma can help a new mom discern between a normal cry and one that suggests illness.

A boss can help their staff understand normal corporate red tape, and shortcuts to circumventing it.

An older brother can help a younger one recognize what normal growing pains feel like, (“Phew, you felt this way too?”).

When I find out that what’s upsetting me is actually “normal,” I usually stop fretting immediately.

Wouldn’t it be great:

-if experts could think back and share their rookie experiences with newbies?

-if we all felt braver about requesting input from people we consider pros, instead of being afraid of seeming inept?

Imagine how much faster we’d all get to where we are going!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Secret rules.

I’m convinced that there are secret rules everyone knows but me.

“Where do I stand to wait for a StairMaster?”

“Do I need to tip for takeout?”

Turns out most people feel this way.

The other day a woman at Aldi gave me her shopping cart.  If you know the secret-cart- rule at Aldi, you know that to release a grocery cart from the corral, you need to pay a quarter.  Aldi exit-ers simply hand off their carts to Aldi enter-ers in a pay-it-forward kind of way.  First-timers are confused at the dogged insistence of the exit-er to take their cart, until an Aldi old-timer explains the arrangement.

Mentoring is all about explaining the secret-rules.  What knowledge can you share that’ll bring someone a little more into the loop?